the story behind the site
During the birth of my third child, there was a moment when I knew she was ready to be born, but my nurse was telling me that I wasn't allowed to push. That moment was followed by several more moments of internal physical, mental, and emotional struggle doing everything I could to hold her in. Twenty minutes passed in what felt like twenty hours, and after two quick pushes, my daughter was earth side. I left that birth knowing that I never wanted anyone else to ever feel so out of control and unheard in their labors. I quickly took the steps needed to become a labor doula and I haven't look backed since.
In becoming a doula, I've realized through clients, personal experiences, and relationships through social media, that there are a lot of taboo subjects when it comes to pregnancy, birth, and motherhood. I've also realized that solidarity and comfort in knowing that you're not alone is one of the best 'medicines' in coping with these feelings. Whenever I have a client dealing with one of these many issues (gender disappointment, postpartum anxiety, pre and postpartum body image struggles, IVF, loss) my immediate reaction is to find a blog post or story to send them that they can relate to. But in doing so, it has come to my attention that these posts and stories are not always that easy to find and access.
What if I were to create a blog where all women and mothers could come to share their stories on the taboo subjects of motherhood? A place that could be easily accessible to posts covering all of the topics that we are often afraid to talk about. A place where others who are going through those same feelings can come to know that they are not alone. I want to normalize all of these subjects and I want for us to be able to speak up about them in a safe and judgement free environment.
Our mission is to create a safe and judgement free space for women and mothers to share their stories of the taboo subjects that surround motherhood.
It is with this space, that we hope to help normalize these subjects.
It is with this space, that we hope to offer comfort and solidarity among those who are hurting.
It is with this space, that we hope to encourage those struggling, to speak up and reach out.
We realize that motherhood is beautiful, and amazing, and fulfilling. But we also know that it is ugly, and dark, and difficult.
And so, it is with this space, that we hope to wrap our arms and our hearts around you, for a virtual hug, so that even in the ugliest, and darkest, and most difficult of times, you will find solace in knowing that you are not alone.
It is my greatest hope that this website will become a well used resource for all of you in your time of need. Please don't hesitate to reach out to me if you have any questions or concerns. And if you wish to become a contributor I would love to speak with you. Thank you for visiting and supporting my vision.
A collection of posts from different humans all over the world, sharing their stories about the struggles they have faced in their individual journeys to motherhood.