After having some time to reflect, Emily writes down a few thoughts and talks about how she is mentally and phycically preparing herself for her next transfer.
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I want to give you all a quick update on where things are in the surrogacy story. It’s been six weeks since we did the first embryo transfer and there has been a lot of time for reflection and processing as well as how I can best prepare for what’s next. Also, thank you for joining me here again in this story.
For now we’re taking October off all medication protocols. As hard as it is to wait, I’m really thankful for this time of recharge. Here are some of the things I’m doing during the pause before the next try:
I’m taking an 8-week Dynamic Mama pilates class at Rooted Pilates focused on strengthening my core, both physically and emotionally. It’s the first group exercise class I’ve done in like 8 years and it feels so good to do alongside other women at different stages in their journey as mothers. Some are newly pregnant others are further down the road in their mothering experiences (like me being 5 years postpartum, lol). On the first day of the class all the participants were encouraged to journal some questions…
We were also encouraged to pick one card from a special deck of cards to serve as a focus for the day’s practice.
If you’re following along with me, perhaps take a moment to ask yourself these same questions. Pause, take a deep breath, and fill your own cup.
I’m doing yoga at home everyday and that’s been amazing, too. Did you know that there are a bazillion YouTube videos for Fertility Yoga? Yeah, I didn’t either until I started this journey. One of my favorites is YogaYin. I also do Yoga with Adriene.
I’m doing acupuncture to help prepare my uterine lining. The topic of acupuncture for fertility deserves it’s own blog post to explain Traditional Chinese Medicine practice and how it can boost fertility. But for now I’ll share this quote from acupuncturist Jane Gregorie, MS, LAc, FABORM, from an interview with Elizabeth Katkin in her book Conceivability, “we nourish the soil before we plant the seed.”
I’ve also been taking this time to nourish my own family. My husband and I celebrated our anniversary this month and we’ve been working on some home improvement projects together. Also, the fall is our family’s season of birthdays, with our oldest turning 11 in September, our middle turning 9 in October, and our youngest turning 5 in November. So, making memories together has been an important priority.
Nourishing friendships and staying connected is also a priority! I’ve had the joy to reconnect with three previous doula clients over lunch or coffee in the past/upcoming week. Nothing makes me happier than maintaining these relationships, except maybe hearing that a family I supported during their first pregnancy is expecting again!
So, what’s next? Well, we will be starting medication again in mid-November in preparation for an early December transfer. I know my IPs are super excited, as am I, for what’s to come. Let me tell you folks, the determination and resolve they have is incredible. They are amazing people with unparalleled fortitude. Brave and badass. Please send some love to them today.
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